Grief & the Holidays

Grief & the Holidays

The holidays can be a tough time for many people.  If you are someone that has lost a loved one this can add another level of sadness and stress.  Here are some suggestions that may help you navigate the holidays. 

  • Give yourself Grace, Kindness & Compassion.  Remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can.
  • Let go of the need to make things perfect.
  • It is “okay” to skip get-togethers.  You don’t have to do it all.  Pace yourself.
  • Be as involved as you can or want to be.  It is okay to visit for 30 minutes and then leave. If you are enjoying yourself you can choose to stay longer.
  • What is meaningful for you?  For example, lighting a candle for your loved one may give you comfort during a holiday meal. Is there a ritual or tradition that you may want to begin?
  • Be flexible. Grief is messy and it is “okay” if things don’t go as planned.
  • Tell people what you need (they might genuinely not know).  E.g., going for a walk together.
  • Recognize that some things are out of your control. 
  • There is no right or wrong way to grieve.  Grief is as unique as you are.
  • Reach out for a therapy session if you need.

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