Grief & the Holidays
The holidays can be a tough time for many people. If you are someone that has lost a loved one this can add another level of sadness and stress. Here are some suggestions that may help you navigate the holidays.
- Give yourself Grace, Kindness & Compassion. Remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can.
- Let go of the need to make things perfect.
- It is “okay” to skip get-togethers. You don’t have to do it all. Pace yourself.
- Be as involved as you can or want to be. It is okay to visit for 30 minutes and then leave. If you are enjoying yourself you can choose to stay longer.
- What is meaningful for you? For example, lighting a candle for your loved one may give you comfort during a holiday meal. Is there a ritual or tradition that you may want to begin?
- Be flexible. Grief is messy and it is “okay” if things don’t go as planned.
- Tell people what you need (they might genuinely not know). E.g., going for a walk together.
- Recognize that some things are out of your control.
- There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Grief is as unique as you are.
- Reach out for a therapy session if you need.